Posted by: Penny Rackley
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| Posted on: Apr 26, 2017
It’s time to get a little help, from yourself.
If you’re just physically tired, the simple remedies hold true: more sleep, more exercise, lots of water, better quality food. You probably won’t have to go much further to see improvement.
But if it’s mental energy you’re struggling to maintain, it’s so important to learn what fills you up, and what empties your reserves. Many people never learn how to do this, but you…you’re in a prime time to get clear understanding on what depletes and restores you.
I’m restored by solitude, an introvert. That doesn’t mean shy or socially awkward or zero friends; it means I’m energized by time alone — to think, read, play piano, enjoy my own thoughts — without interruption or having to take care of or talk to anyone else.
If you’re an extrovert, time with people will energize you when you’re depleted. You might need a jam session with friends, or a fun weekend trip with the girls, or a night out dancing.
Neither is “right”, but you’ll greatly benefit from knowing what’s right for YOU. Once that’s figured out, do not hesitate to get what you need when you need it. We’re maintaining juicy brain resilience here!
My point: You absolutely must be on your own team, and say/do what you need to get clarity and courage, especially now in this do-or-die, stick-the-landing crunch time. Whether that means saying no to Friday night’s game so you get some quiet solo time, or planning a big night out with the boys, DO it. Either way, make sure you’re generating the energy you need to get the job done.
(If you want to learn more about your personality type and how to make the most of who you are, here is a free assessment that’s easy to understand and navigate – 16personalities.com. I’d love to hear about your personality profile! I’m an INFJ. What are you?)
Something else to consider. The older you get, the easier and more socially acceptable it will be to choose quick emotional buffers over genuine restoration/recreation. Adults often buffer their bad feelings (loneliness, boredom, fear, anxiety) with numbing agents such as alcohol, weed, porn, gambling, mindless TV, maybe a full weekend of violent video games, anything to chase the bad feelings away.
The thing is, these buffers can so quickly become a crutch, a habit of empty escape. There’s a difference between a savored reward after a long, hard day, and a living in a blind haze to forget your troubles — since the troubles are still going to be there after the smoke’s cleared.
It know it’s tempting, but try to avoid buffering, especially when you’re emotionally and mentally spent. Make time for genuine re-creation instead. Some examples:
Visit the animal shelter and give those puppies and kitties some much-needed affection.
Call an upbeat friend to talk about anything but school
Hit the gym/running trail/yoga studio alone or with friends. Try for a new personal best
Revisit your comic book/vinyl collection and maybe shop for a new addition
Read that book that’s been on your nightstand all semester. No text books!
Plan and cook a meal that you love. Invite a someone over who appreciates good food.
Get your friends together for a themed film festival. Godzilla vs. Mothra, anyone?
Write to your favorite life coach (memepickme), about anything that’s on your mind.
You get the idea. ;)